Episode 17

Guest Overview

Cory Hargraves is a 39-year-old property investor and former Army sniper who served during the Iraq War. Raised by a single mom on a tribal reservation, Cory has navigated an extraordinary journey of personal growth, from surviving war zones to thriving as a hands-on dad. Now a husband and father to his 16-month-old daughter, Finley, Cory uses his platform to advocate for breaking generational cycles, redefining masculinity, and supporting women’s rights.

Episode Summary

In this episode, Cory shares his transformative journey from the battlefield to the frontlines of fatherhood. He reflects on why parenting is tougher than sniper school, how becoming a dad reshaped his worldview, and the ways he’s working to raise his daughter with love, patience, and confidence. Cory also opens up about breaking generational cycles, navigating trauma, and supporting his wife through the challenges of parenthood. This candid conversation is filled with insights on growth, family, and purpose.

Fun Fact

Cory describes how his military training taught him precision, but it’s parenting that taught him patience.

What do you wish you knew before having kids? 

"I wish I knew how much parenting would require me to confront my own past. It’s not just about raising a child—it’s about reparenting yourself."

What advice do you give your expectant friends? 

"Be honest with yourself and your partner. Parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about showing up and trying to do better every day."

What has been the most impactful part of your journey in parenthood? 

"Realizing that it’s no longer about me. Everything I do now is for my daughter, to make sure she grows up confident, loved, and unafraid to take risks."

What has brought you unexpected joy throughout this experience? 

"Watching how much joy my daughter has brought to our family, especially my wife’s mom, who has been through so much. Finley’s laughter is like sunshine in a storm."

What is a sentence that sums up the most impactful part of your journey? 

"Parenting isn’t just about raising a child—it’s about breaking cycles, healing yourself, and building something better for the next generation."